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In Oakland, Matt Lindgren offers grief, loss, and bereavement therapy to help children, teens, and adults.
You remember when things were different before you experienced a major loss. Maybe you lost someone you love. Maybe you lost a pet, or went through a divorce or separation. Maybe you've lost something crucial to your identity, such as your career, your health, or you've acquired a disability. Maybe you're watching your child, family, and partner suffer from this loss as well.
Your life is no longer the same. You may feel angry, frustrated, helpless, resentful, jealous, and hurt. The depressive symptoms of grief, loss, and bereavment may make it difficult for you to work and connect with others.
It may seem as if you cannot move on. It may seem as if the whole world were happy except for you and your pain.
You might find yourself, or you child, going back and forth between the various stages of grief identified by Elisabeth Kubler Ross:
Typically, grief over the loss of a loved one varies from nine months to three years. Different cultures also express grief in very different ways. Sometimes, grief can become what therapists call "complicated grief", when the grief is unable to run its natural coarse. The person becomes stuck in their grief, unable to move on. Complicated grief can happen for a variety of reasons, including:
The good news is that there is effective therapy for grief, loss, and bereavement in Oakland. Therapy begins with having a safe place to be able to talk about how you really feel, with someone who can accept your pain without judgement or fear and with whom you can be yourself.
EMDR and somatic interventions are excellent for those times when grief, loss, and bereavement involve complicated grief, anxiety, depression, and trauma. CBT offers research based help for depression and irrational thoughts about grief, loss, and bereavement. I offer these therapies to people who are grieving in Oakland.
As a caregiver or parent to a child who has suffered a loss, there is a great deal of hope. Children can be very resilient to loss when they can depend upon a safe and nurturing caregiver to help. In Oakland, I offer play therapy and family therapy specifically designed to help children and families work through trauma, grief, and loss by